Tuesday, November 09, 2010

Of chains and affairs

Question of the day : why does relationships work out the wrong way leading to one going to a third party for comfort or pleasure?

Common enough, difference in character, opinions, temperaments creates leading issues in a relationship. Even mature adults do not know how to handle the difference. I do not have an answer to it.

Often or not, behaviors that is not welcomed by the spouse is detected late in a relationship, after years of covering and letting love blind the eyes of seeing the real person. Being honest helps to solve half the problem. Being open and willing to change for both helps to solve the other half, or so i think.

There is an insecurity in me of losing someone to affairs. Perhaps its seeing and hearing what happens in real life. Too many cases close to the heart weakens the hope that love is loyal forever.

Knowing that all i want to know is for someone to prove my thoughts wrong, the only way for me to be convinced is by experiencing it myself.

Security comes from real love. While real love comes from God. Teach me the meaning of love and trust once again.

2 comments:

Jan said...

i guess it takes a lot of effort to learn to give and take...and most important - love.

oh well, im still learning myself :)

siaomeen said...

nods. cannot agree more to the effort and learning part. :) comforting and encouraging to know that im not alone in this learning process. thanks janice